We all have obstacles to success. Barriers to entry like the dollar value, market saturation, lack of capital or finding the best staff are all real obstacles and problems. So if problems can be solved, and they can, what really stands in your way? Why are these problems not getting solved? What is your number one obstacle? Can I guess?
Gremlins are those thoughts that creep into our subconscious and stop us. Our inner critic as it were. They tell us that we don’t look good in that bathing suit. They tell us that we are not worthy of having a successful business. They tell us that the lack of capital is why we are stopped.
It is not the problems stopping you. It is you.
By giving space for your gremlin to operate, you are, unwittingly, allowing her to sabotage your business.
Gremlins stem from information coming at you from society, your friends or other relationships.
If you think about all the little voices in your head, the gremlins are the negative or destructive ones. The intuition voices, you get to keep undisturbed!
To get rid of these nasty critters, we need to understand their origins. Gremlins often originate from a place of good. For example, when you beat yourself up for having a messy desk, chances are someone in your past, or present told you that the best way to stay productive is to be organized. Your gremlin turned that into, “You are unworthy if you are unorganized.”
You are likely hearing those voices now and I want you to think what they cost you. How has that gremlin of yours benefitted you? I would venture a guess that she hasn’t benefitted you at all. She is standing in your way and laughing about it.
I wish I had a magic wand to get rid of your gremlin and have her never come back. But, I don’t.
Our gremlin stays with us our entire life. What I can help you with is to provide information on taming her. I can give you tools to tame the beast and get on with building your business and solving those problems standing in the way of your success.
How to Tame Your Gremlin:
- Talk Back
Your gremlin attacks you because you are reinforcing her voice. When you hear her voice observe what she is saying, analyze the origins, talk back to it as if it were a naughty child requiring a time-out and educate yourself on what really empowers you.
Here’s an example:
Gremlin: “You lost that file, didn’t you? You are an idiot.”
Observe: That was harsh Gremlin.
Analyze: Wow. My father never lost anything that I know of and he is the smartest man I know.
By him setting a good example of keeping track of his important things, I felt dumb when I didn’t.
Talk Back: I am not an idiot. I just lost a file. I will find it or recreate it. It is a problem with a solution.
Educate: Instead of telling myself that I’m an idiot when this kind of situation arises, I will instead say, “I am smart enough to solve difficult problems.”
Your gremlin really is someone else’s criteria for success. And remember, when you measure your worth based on someone else’s criteria, you are at their mercy.
When you measure your worth based on someone else’s criteria, you are at their mercy
Do not be at the mercy of your gremlin. She does not deserve that kind of power. Instead, remember that your words are your truth. Turn your gremlin into a champion by taming her.